Closing Doors Rather Than Opening Them (Weekly Photo Challenge)

Ready to walk on through? This week, share an image of a door.

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Be open to new experiences… be open to trying new things and meeting new people… open all the doors you find in your way and something good will always come out of this… and if you cannot open the doors yourself, do everything in your power to find some way or someone who can do it for you… have your doors, much like your arms, open for everybody, nothing bad can come of it… How about knowing when to close those metaphorical doors – on a chapter of your life, on a person, on a situation? Isn’t that sort of knowledge underrated, the same way both the open doors of our heart policy and the people who can open all sorts of doors for us are many times overrated?

It occurred to me that the older we get, the more difficult it becomes not only to be open to new challenges, but to actually close the door and put an end to undesirable situations we might find ourselves in; instead, we fool ourselves into thinking we might fix everything, we might change whatever isn’t working properly, when in fact we do know when something has escalated to a point beyond return or repair. But doesn’t one determine the other? Aren’t we afraid to close the door on certain people or contexts simply because we dread the moment when yet again we have to start over? We have already been through it so many times, that in spite of the experience and endurance gained, we risk it becoming a habit. The routine of disappointment mixed with stubbornness and hope can sometimes blur out the warning signs and we fail to see and / or accept that we need to move on once more.

Walking away without looking back can prove challenging these days… it used to be different. I was reading one of Lillian’s poems earlier, one memory lead to another and I got to have flashbacks of how easy letting go used to be. It took two ballet lessons to understand that activity wasn’t meant for me and move on to something else. When I was in kindergarten, it took me 10 minutes to understand that the boy I liked for months was a bore, all it took was the courage to go and play with him; once I realized that, I stood up and left, to never talk to or care about him again. Sure, we’re not children anymore, the complexity of our lives can often be overwhelming and nothing is either black or white, all the shades in between become unbearable and suffocating at times. But when have we forgotten that any doors we might have opened willingly or otherwise at some point can also be closed? When have we become so unable to just close the door behind us and walk away?…

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28 thoughts on “Closing Doors Rather Than Opening Them (Weekly Photo Challenge)

  1. Yes, difficult to learn…everything has a beginning, a middle and and end. This is the dimension of time, integrated into our three dimensional worlds. I am always looking for three dimensional solutions to four dimensional problems.

    ==Marty

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  2. Thank you so much for this blog, as it related very closely to mine that you liked. I have an awful time closing doors, even though I know very well that they should be closed…for good. a lesson we all could use, I’m sure.

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  3. This is a wonderful take on the door theme! Insightful. I agree, sometimes closing is harder than opening. Well, both can be scary, but opening just seems more exciting. Closing can take work. Thank you for visiting my site. It gave me the chance to come over to your site and open the door. I like it here.
    Peace,
    Mary

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    • Thank you for your kind words. I agree, it’s always easier to look forward to the possibly pleasant surprise hidden in the unknown rather than break away from the familiarity of a known situation that needs – nevertheless – to come to an end.

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    • Thank you 🙂 I completely agree with you, letting go of something/someone familiar – even when we know it’s not what we need – is often a great challenge.challenge.

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  4. Hmmm….This really got me thinking. My life is definitely a massive collection of door swinging open and close! Haha.
    Great article Ana!

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  5. Great piece Ann. The Photographs are also beautiful. On the subject, I’m trying to close a few doors. Challenge is that it helps if you can synchronise with opening the new one. Still, some good questions to ponder. Thank you. Chevvy

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