Painful as it may be, we need to share our stories and experience. This is how we grow.
This is how we help others grow.
We let them in… We endeavour to see past the walls of appearance everybody puts up, for some reason or another… and we learn… and we teach… because this is such a big part of how perspective is shaped.
Where am I going with all of these somewhat cliché statements? Well… an idea is at the base of any project; but this day and age, it’s often an email that gets it rolling. And sometimes we’re taken by surprise, both by the idea and by the end result.
This Is How We Grow was such a project for me. Yvette Prior’s flattering invitation to be one of the writers putting together a book on growth and perspective shaping came at an interesting time… the right time, as it turned out. I’ve said it before and I’m fairly sure I’ll say it again in the future – timing is crucial when it comes to sharing certain stories.
So here I am, trying to find the right words to describe this project of ours. Apparently, writing my chapter was the easy part. Talking about it and the book containing it seems to be more of a challenge.
Several authors from various countries, with very different social and cultural backgrounds were brought together by the contributing editor, hoping that sharing their stories, under one form or another, might prove beneficial to their potential readers. Diverse voices with different styles share – both in verse and prose – about difficult moments, personal experience, lessons learned, as well as the social context that may have influenced the course of events.
The point – as far as I’m concerned – is to let people know they are not alone, but also to open them up to the possibility of a different point of view as an enriching new perspective. Understanding the mechanisms behind a person’s choices and behaviour is far more difficult than simply judging and labelling.
Personally, I’ve experienced this book both as a writer and a reader, and I was humbled, uplifted, charmed and even in awe of what the authors shared (I had no idea what the others were contributing). I had the “been there” moments, as well as the “wow… that’s so different from anything I’ve experienced” and the “I don’t think I could have handled that” ones.
My own chapter, Dragonfly, is about my aunt and her life-long struggles, trying to depict her from a variety of perspectives – the daughter, the mother, the sister, the wife, the aunt… the woman. I may or may not agree with her choices, but I have grown to understand them, to see the pain and pressure behind her actions, her addiction, her judgemental as well as her supportive ways. But I will share more in a future post.
Before I leave you with a couple of useful links in case you want to know more about the book, I’ll add one final consideration. Give other people’s stories a chance, listen to them, accept them, because you never know how they may change your life.
Check out Yvette Prior’s introductory post if you want to find out more about This Is How We Grow. You can purchase your own copy on Amazon.
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